Archive for July, 2011

Rebel With a Vision!


2011
07.20

Lately I have been wanting strong female role models. Shoot, many of us have even forgotten that those exist!

I recently stumbled upon a few amazing ladies from our past and thought I’d share their stories. Isadora Duncan is the first in this series because she was a dancer and, at heart, I am too!

Born Dora Angela Duncan in 1878, she was a woman rebel from the womb who challenged and changed modern society. She had a fierce spirit that could not be contained.

Her chosen method of expression was through dance and the style she aspired to was organic and intuitive. Her philosophy of movement did not conform to anyone’s standards. Dance for Duncan was a method of expressing one’s natural self: it was also a way to make a political statement against society’s norms.

Dancing barefoot, skipping, twirling, jumping and leaping – Duncan altered the terrain of the performance. While her works may have looked improvised, they were indeed choreographed – she interpreted music of great composers, but she did it with such natural talent that it was seamless.
She is known as the Mother of Modern Dance.

Critics felt that she did not have the right to interpret these works in such a manner. But Duncan believed that art played a crucial role in culture, it was needed to allow individuals avenues to question the status quo.

Duncan was a philosopher and visionary educator. She advocated that all learning should be grounded in the arts, culture and spirituality. As an educator, she opened her first dance school in Germany in 1904. Remembering her own childhood of poverty, she made it a point to choose students from the poorer classes, and she paid for all their physical needs.

She believed in the transformative power of dance. In fact, she was a pioneer theorist, creating the first theory of dance. Above all, Duncan was a free spirit – a rebel with a vision – a dancer, a teacher, a poet and a thinker.

She was bold, fierce and daring – her dance reflected her life!

Unbearable Lightness


2011
07.05

What an amazing book!

It is a remarkably candid memoir told by a brave & courageous woman.

Eating disorders come in all different forms and the true issue isn’t food. The issues are self-esteem and emotional honesty. The lovely Ms. De Rossi so eloquently illustrates just that.

It’s no secret: we have been so bamboozled by the media, accepting their definition of beauty and killing ourselves to conform to it. Somehow we forgot about our health, well-being & joy of life!
Many of us (mostly women but now sadly, men too) are so preoccupied with our physical looks that we have forgotten how to simply enjoy food. The smells, the tastes, the presentation.

I love this part:

(reading Naomi Wolf’s The Beauty Myth) “… I remember lying on my bed… and saying out loud to no one but my dog, Bean, “Oh my God. I fell for it.” I remember feeling ashamed for calling myself a feminist when I had blatantly succumbed to the oppression of the mass media telling me what was beautiful, how to look, and what to weigh. It was a turning point. I had always prided myself on the fact that I was smart, analytical, and someone who didn’t “fall for it.” By starving myself to society’s beauty ideal, I had compromised my success, my independence, and my quality of life. Being overweight was really no different. It was just the “f— you” response to the same pressure.”

Here are some other fabulous snippets from the book:

“The images of stick-thin prepubescent girls never should have had power over me. I should’ve had my sights set on successful businesswomen and successful female artists, authors, and politicians to emulate. Instead I stupidly and pointlessly just wanted to be considered pretty. I squandered my brain and my talent to squeeze into a size 2 dress while my male counterparts went to work on making money, making policy, making a difference.”

(in session with her therapist)”… We talked about the image of the ideal woman in the form of models who were mostly unhealthy teenage girls. We talked about the idea that women in the postfeminist era, while supposedly strong and commanding and equal to men in every sense, looked weaker and smaller than ever before. We talked about how most women’s self-esteem still largely rests on what they look like and how much they weigh despite their other accomplishments.”

WOW.

And all of that she saves for the very end! The body of the book details her personal experience with food before and during her rise to fame.

I must say, though, my favorite part of the book is where she is getting the lab results from her doctor after she collapses from malnutrition. Next to each photo of herself she brilliantly gives the doctor’s explanation of the damage she’s done to her body. That is the only thing on the page – an illustration to the photo.
The amazing thing is that in 3 of the 4 photos you wouldn’t know she was sick. She looks like a super model, the very same images we see every day. Yikes!

Anyone who has ever suffered from an eating disorder of any kind (and if you are an American female you have usually experienced some form of disordered eating) should read this book. It will transform you!
Not all of it is easy to read – she describes certain periods of self-loathing and abuse that make you want to cry. But that is the truth behind many disorders, isn’t it? The point is to face those negative feelings head-on so they can be confronted, addressed and put to rest.

I love it when people are willing to speak their truth openly. It encourages others to do the same.
In these small ways we can put more positivity out there, more courage and wisdom. Affect our world for the better. No reality show necessary!