Archive for January, 2012
This is an oldie but goodie from Pixar that should be shared and re-shared!
“Unkindness, I think, is the deepest betrayal. Genetically, you got dealt a certain hand, and regardless of what you do you’ve got it, and it’s not gonna change that much. And you can manipulate it through exercise and diet but at the end of the day, if you don’t celebrate it in some way, you just become invisible. Parts of your body become invisible to you.”
Go on, girl!
What you say does make an impression. Make sure it’s a good one.
1. “Do anything fun today?”
Life isn’t all about achievements; this could help her find her passion.
2. “That was a brave thing to do.”
When girls stand up for someone or something they believe in, we should stand up and cheer. After all, that’s the mark of a leader.
3. “Let’s go for a run.”
Simply getting her going can boost her mood and self-image. Exercise also gives her confidence in her body’s strength.
4. “You can be anything; you don’t have to be everything.”
“You go, girl” is always a great message, but she also needs to know that when and if she wants to, she can slow down.
5. “Just know I’m here. No pressure. No judgement.”
It’s helpful if she knows she can turn to someone, even if she doesn’t end up doing so, says psychologist Rita Haley, Ph.D.
Teach her to enjoy her food, not battle it.
7. “Well-behaved women seldom make history.”
Historian Laurel Thatcher Ulrich’s so-true words tell her that if she wants to break the rules sometimes, you have her back.
1. “I feel fat.”
After a 2nd helping of stuffing, sure you do. But beware! If she sees you hating your body, she may learn to loathe hers, says Courtney E. Martin, author of Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters.
2. “You’re young. You’ll get over it.”
Yes, she’ll survive being blown off by her so-called friend. But that doesn’t make it sting less right now. Ask how you can help.
3. “Men suck.”
Bashing just feeds an us-versus-them mentality, says Haley.
4. “Sure you want to eat that?”
Eating a honking slab of pie is much less damaging to her than the feeling that everything she puts in her mouth is fodder for scrutiny.
5. “Paris is such a slut.”
Whatever you think of Ms. Hilton, trashing women teaches girls to be mean, says psychologist Sharon Lamb. Bring up Nancy Pelosi instead. Research suggests that talking with girls about female politicians can help can help them aspire to leadership roles.
6. “Guys won’t like you if you…”
It’s never good to change to “get” a guy. Tell her the right one will like every crazy, quirky thing about her.
7. “These are the best years of your life.”
High school?! As if.