Posts Tagged ‘aging’

Heal With Steel?


2012
02.27

NO! Rock it Real!

Many of you who know me know that I am not a fan of plastic surgery.
I do everything within my power to inspire people to tune into their Inside, not fix their Outside.
Friday night’s 20/20 was all about plastic surgery. Most of it made me want to cry.

Now, I’m no purist. I understand that we have cosmetic surgery for a reason. It offers a chance for a “normal” appearance and experience for folks who, for whatever reason, have not.
With a firm grip on one’s self-esteem and the right emotional outlook a procedure can give some people the boost they need to finally feel like their outside reflects their inside. I’ve seen it happen.

Mostly, though, I’ve seen the opposite.

Women who have nothing physically wrong with them undergo the knife again and again. The top procedure? Breast implants. Duh. We Americans can’t get past our breast obsession.
The thing I can’t understand is that these women (and girls!) end up looking cartoonish in their after shots and they’re THRILLED. They can’t see the imbalance in it. They can’t see the silly in the silicone. How does that happen?

Most disturbing, though, is the teenage factor. Teen plastic surgery has risen 380% in the last 10 years. What?! Or more importantly, Why?!
Not to mention the non-surgical procedures like Botox, laser treatments & a variety of fillers. (Are you hearing me, Readers? These are TEENAGERS!!)
Sorry for yelling, I’m upset.
The young ladies interviewed on the show started their procedures as teens and are now in their early 20′s. Ironically, I thought they looked older. Maybe because they look the same way many of the women from The Real Housewives franchise do. Pretty, yes, but rubbery & painted.

And now gluteal enhancement! Really? Weren’t women forever asking their partners “Does this make my butt look big?” Now suddenly because a few lovely celebrities have embraced their larger posteriors (and may I say, rocked it!) the new insecurity of choice is a small backside? Oh, no no no.

And now we’re taking men along for the ride. They have had a 100% increase in procedures since 1997 believing that the procedures “Help project confidence.”
The most disturbing new trend, Cosmetic Limb Lengthening. Where they actually break your legs and insert metal rods in them to make you grow taller. Medically, that’s fascinating. Personally? It’s nauseating.

Now, many people say if it’s making these people happy who cares? They should do whatever they want.  Agreed… partially.
Because here’s the rub – once you start “fixing” things that are imperfect about your physique, it’s very difficult to stop. Dermatologist Patricia Wexler equates it to “washing spots off of a wall. Once you wash the first one off, everything else looks dirty.”  Also, it becomes difficult to see when you are taking it too far.  You lose perspective on your own features.

But the most important reason why I care is because we all take cues from each other. Carl Jung defined it as: “the unconscious influence of one being on another” and we’re sending the message of inauthenticity. We are teaching our children by our own behavior that looks are more important than character. That beauty is to be revered, no matter the cost.
Our current actions tell them that they should place their value on their measurements and their line-free faces.

So, what do we do?

Imperfect Pearls is all about being positive and pro-active.  Our goal is to create a world (that’s right, an entire WORLD) where being real, authentic, genuine and true is as cool as it gets.  No matter who you are, what you do, where you come from, what you look like.

We’ll back up our philosophy with community service, public speaking and products.  We intend our point of view to be represented in life, in books and in the media – with humor, wellness and style!

ALL ABOARD!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

Don’t Knock It, Rock It!


2011
06.28

Ok, dear people, one thing you should know about me is this: I love to boogie.
And I’ll do it anywhere, anytime the mood strikes me. Don’t care where I am or who’s watching.

Sometimes it inspires the most amazing conversations!

I was jammin’ to the oldies in Trader Joes (they always have the best music) when I came upon the sample station, the woman was SO friendly. And sweet!

She complimented my moves & my ensemble saying, “You know we have to tell each other these things because the men just don’t. Even if they’re thinking it they don’t say it.” Often VERY true. Sorry, fellas!

Then she said while pointing to her hair “Oh and I love the, uh, the white.” Referring of course to my gray hair.

“Oh, thanks!” I said. “I figured I might as well just rock it, you know?”

She said,”Oh my gosh! That is so true! And you know what? Seeing you do it makes me think I can do it, too! Cuz yeah – just rock it!”
Proving to myself once again that if we are comfortable with ourselves on the whole we can inspire others to do the same.

In fact, I had been pondering what to do about my rapidly whitening hair when I saw Stacy London in a Pantene commercial with a neat little strip of white in hers.
I figured if one of the Queens of Fashion could do it? So could I.

See how we influence each other?

To be honest I don’t super love the gray hair. It is sometimes a reminder to me that I’m not 19 anymore (nor anywhere near my 20s!). It is also an admission to others of the same fact.
But when I stop to think about it, I don’t really want to be in that age range anymore (no offense to my Sisters who are!). It was fine at the time but I am no longer there – not mentally and definitely not physically.
I have determined that I traded wisdom for curves (‘cuz, whoa! Where DID my boobs go?!) and I am at peace with that.

As women, if we are positive & supportive of each other there is nothing we can’t accomplish. We have successfully broken the glass ceiling & Xena-kicked our way into every industry.  There truly is nothing we can’t do!
We are independent, intelligent and liberated. 

So let’s take that final step and overcome these beauty obstacles that we often put in our own way. Let’s embrace our gifts & laugh about our flaws! Don’t knock it, rock it!
And keep supporting & teaching each other to do the same.

Gettin’ Old? That’s Earned…


2011
06.03

 

“Hell, I’ve always been old. You know what, though? I don’t mind.

If my muscles ache it’s cuz I’ve used ‘em. If it’s hard for me to walk up them steps now it’s cuz I walked up ‘em every night to lay next to a man who loved me.

I got a few wrinkles here and there but I’ve laid under thousands of skies on sunny days.

I look and feel this way, well, ‘cuz I drank and I smoked, I lived and I loved, danced, sang, sweat and screwed my way through a pretty damn good life if you ask me.

Gettin’ old ain’t bad, man. Gettin’ old? That’s earned.”

Maggie McGlone, Maggie’s Bar

Movie: The Guardian