As a sex counselor and educator, I’ve talked to hundreds of gorgeous women who lack the confidence to initiate sex, to ask for what they want in bed, to be touched where they think they’re “fat” or even leave the lights on. Sometimes these insecurities are deeply rooted and call for counseling.
But for most of us, becoming sexually assured can be as easy as trying little things that make us feel more beautiful in the moment.
Number one, take a cue from guys. Trust me, he’s not tripping out on any of the stuff you’re tripping out on. He’s probably just looking at the roundness of your butt and enjoying how it feels under his hand.
There are also positions that will make you feel more confident instantly.
Spooning makes just about any woman look curvy and voluptuous in that Vargas girl way.
Cowgirl position – you on top – gives him a great view and lets you get turned on by seeing him so into it. If all else fails, close your eyes and be really in the moment. The more you concentrate on your pleasure, the more you’ll feel.
Sadie Allison is the founder and CEO of Tickle Kitty, Inc., and the author of Ride ‘Em Cowgirl! Sex Position Secrets for Better Bucking.
(Material is from the article The Seven Different Kinds of Confidence Every Woman Needs, Glamour Magazine)